Hi, I’m the new and improved…
Well summer is over and I am headed back to school for my final year as an undergraduate student. I don’t know what happened to me this summer, or who I think I am for that matter but I would like to introduce my school and all my friends to the new and improved me. It feels great and I have a whole new perspective on life and the path in which I will chose to follow this year and the years to come. I have come up with plans and expectations for this final school year.
First, I will not be stressed this year. I vow to myself to be completely free spirited and fun. It’s my last year and I plan on enjoying it fully. This means that I will have to redirect my focus on things I thought were important, because to me at this time in my life my sanity, self respect and morality are the most crucial to my happiness right now. Nothing Else!!
Secondly, Niggas Please. Just Kidding, I vow to myself that I will not take any guy, especially on my campus too seriously. It’s a waste of time and my numero uno priorite’ is to be happy n shit.
Thirdly, Get a 165 on this damn LSAT that I have been studying for. I mean that’s all I ask, I dont even want a 170. Also I vow to myself to not get down on myself for not getting into the specific school I want to, because regardless I will be successful. And again I will still be happy n shit.
Fourth, Spend the most time with the loves of my life because I am going to miss them terribly. SM, JS, SH, AF and JBW.
Peaches&Gumbo
??? Pt. 2
1. Why do black people always try to get over?
2. Can you wear peep toe shoes year round?
3. Does Rihanna really only have $20,000 left in her accounts?
4. What’s the difference between being an enabler and a supporter?
5. Why do i have to shave my legs in the winter?
6. Why isn’t it tricking if you got it?
7. What does that new song Marco Polo mean?
8. Is it wrong that I am only attracted to tall, black ass dudes?
9. Will Obama be seen as a conformist if he choses Joe Biden as VP?
Peaches&Gumbo
The Missing Element
What do 50 cent, Jay Z, and Weezy F. Baby have in common???
Only that women around the world have at one time in their lives fantasized about these men. And why?? 50 looks quite gorilla esque and Wayne is a clear ancestor of Gizmo from the Gremlins. But yet women are always swarming around these fellas.
It’s because they own something that many guys lack tremendously. And no, I am not talking about a jet or a million dollar vitamin water ad. These fellas have SWAG. I know you are reading like, uh if they weren’t gatrillionaires girls wouldn’t even notice them. Ok maybe their money gives them a little push over the edge but they all still have an immense amount of Swag.
I don’t know what it is but I always find myself attracted to the, “Uh yeah I guess he’s cute when I squint my eyes and tilt my head slightly to left guy.” But the difference between this guy and the sexy Idris Elba lookalike is that he got my attention by more than just looks. He commanded my attention by his charm and his inner confidence and to me that’s so much more sexier than anything else.
So in the words of T.I. get yo swag up fellas. How do you do this you ask?? Well I am glad you asked that, see my Get yo Swag up Compilation Below:
1. Be a guys guy. This person is loved by all guys because they are one of those genuine cool ass dudes. Most guys have little to nothing negative to say about this guy. This is important because ladies will do their research and it looks excellent if their close guy friend approves of you. This could raise a 4 easily to a 6.
2. Be Tight. All I am saying is be on your shit. Have yourself together. Be so successfully assured in whatever it is you do or are aspiring to do that nothing can negate you from that path. Nothing is sexier than a guy with goals, aspirations and hope. All women want is a little security and if you can offer that, you can get it today if you want, LOL.
3. Be charming. I once talked to a guy who charmed me out of everything, literally. I mean I was so into him that I couldn’t see anyone else. He didn’t offer much but everything he said was so pleasing and fascinating that i was absolutely captivated with him. If you have an attractive personality and can keep me enthralled in the things you just simply say… hold on I gotta change my panties, darn it!!
So Bam, there you have it. Trust me with this swag thing. With it you will be on every females mind and dudes will have respect for you too. It’s a win win. Get yo swag up fellas!!
Peaches&Gumbo
What do you guys think???
Hello World!! I want to write to the gratification of my audience. Problem is I guess I have never asked you guys what you want to see when you log on to peachesngumbo.wordpress.com.
Soo guys, lemme know about anything you want to see on my blog n stuff. And if you have any ideas for the betterment of previous posts lemme know that too. Strictly Constructive criticisms allowed.
Just let me know shawty,what you want because “it can be whatever you like.”
Peaches&Gumbo
Vanity v. Self Confidence
I will admit I was a little salty a couple weeks ago when a guy I used to talk to told me I was vain. Actually it took me completely by surprise. Only because no one had ever directed vain slander towards me before. He went on to explain that I was different and it seemed that I could care less what he thought about me anymore. Meaning that if he complimented me about something physical or mental I had an almost back handed appreciation when I thanked him.
Well world the truth is I don’t really care what guys think of me. I don’t need a guy to validate how I feel about myself, sorry. If you can’t be with someone like that then… HOLLA!!
It took me awhile to get to this point. I am going to be completely transparent with you world. I had seriously low self esteem up until recently. I went through a lot and I did not like myself. I have always needed some guy to validate me. I needed a guy to tell me I looked good, to feel like i looked good. I needed someone, anyone to continuously remind me of the greatness I possessed. It took years for me to finally look in a mirror and truly love the image looking back at me. I am only 21 so I am blessed that I went through all that before I reached true womanhood.
So yeah I am not walking around thinking to my self, ”Aww man I hope this guy thinks my outfit looks nice.” NO FOOL, I know I am attractive, I know I keep myself up and I know that I am a genuinely good person. But knowing these things to be true does not make me vain, it makes me CONFIDENT. And if you can’t tell the difference you have a problem with your own esteem.
World, please walk around with your head high n stuff. Know your self worth and be confident to be you because no one else will. Don’t seek validation from others, Love your own Damn Self!!!!
**Readers if you are still confused about vanity and self confidence see definitions below**
Vanity- excessive pride in one’s appearance, qualities, abilities, achievements, etc.; character or quality of being vain; conceit:
Confidence- belief in oneself and one’s powers or abilities; self-confidence; self-reliance; assurance:
Peaches&Gumbo
There’s always One
Time to attack the friend groups of the world. Most people have a group of people in which they are seen often with. In high school we called ourselves CHSD, lol the memories. Shout out to the homies.
Ok I’m back. Now the friend group usually consists of 4 or 5 people that you hang out with. For example, you would call these 3 to 4 people up when going out and you could potentially need someone to jump in on a fight. I’ll give you a second to picture the group… do you have it yet??
So within the friend group you always have the following characters:
First up the elder of the group. The elder is the friend who goes out of their way to protect the group. They always have a little less fun than the rest of the group and they are usually the extreme cock blocker. The friends know that the elder is looking out for their best interest but damn it wouldn’t hurt to loosen up just a little bit.
Next up is the entertainer of the group. This person knows how to party and have fun. They bring out the fun in the group and most often stands in as the mediator when there is turmoil in the group. Because duh, it takes away the fun n stuff.
The messy friend is our next feature. This friend is always involved in some type of melodramatic antics. They always have something to say about everything and often takes up time complaining about every damn thing. You can catch them trying to fight at the club or talking loud at some random person at the grocery store. You secretly hate this friend but you keep them around because ya’ll have either been friends forever or because you simply feel empathetic or just purely obligated.
The loose friend is always in every group. This friend is down for whatever when it comes to the opposite sex or same sex. They never really tell you specifically who they talk to or if the rumors are true but you just kind of figure they are. You do not bring your significant other around this person out of fear that your friend has slept with them. You love your loose friend but would never sit on their toilet seat. You keep them around because face it, they know no one else could befriend them so they are the most loyal in the friend group.
Lastly you have the lame friend. Everyone has a lame in their friend group. This person is cool as hell but they just completely dress wack as hell or they have not entirely developed interpersonal skills. This is your true blue friend and they would do anything for you, even though you are sometimes embarrassed to be around them.
And for an added bonus we all have the friend who just can not get it together. They may still rock those inital shirts or wear big gaudy jewelry. Or no matter what they do their hair just won’t do something right. In essence they just can never get it quite right.
**So there you have it world, let me know if you disagree or agree about these characterizations. If you agree n stuff tell us about your wonderfully complex group of friends**
Peaches&Gumbo
The Downfalls of the Humorous
All my life I have been the funny girl. My mom recalls that I began telling jokes and demanding the center of attention at the tender age of 3. All her friends remind me of a McDonald’s joke I came up with when I was around 9, that still cracks them up from time to time. It didn’t stop there and I still long for the laughter of my peers. It brings me pure joy to see others grabbing their sides after I have said or done something utterly ridiculous. I love it, but sometimes I hate it.
Being known as funny is really a curse at times. Just recently a guy friend and I got into it because I said something that he took complete offense to. My innocent defense, “I was just joking.” But sometimes those 4 words do not work and you wind up hurting the people you genuinely care about. Oh damn my funny genes!!
Then there are the times when you are being absolutely serious about something completely important. And guess what funny person… no one takes you seriously. They think you’re a joke and laugh about your serious moments. Then this winds up hurting you. Oh damn my funny genes!!
You could be having one of those days when you hate people and wish they would all die, and everyone is looking to you for some type of entertainment because face it, you’re their personal coon. Then you end up hurting people’s feelings because you are like get the hell out of my face with that foolery. Oh damn my funny genes!!
All in all I guess I must accept my fate and live with the downfalls that accompany being humorous. Oh damn my funny genes!!
Peaches&Gumbo
Sexy vs. Cute
So apparently, I’m cute. I know right, who knew, lol.
But seriously, one of my guy friends explained to me once that I was a cute girl, not to be confused with being a sexy girl. At first I was very offended by this statement because I thought he was saying that I didn’t add up in the looks department or something rude like that. But he explained that while there is a difference it’s not bad to just be merely cute. Quite honestly, in some situations it is better to be considered the cute girl. So whats the difference you ask?? Well that’s why I’m here readers of the world, so you can know the gosh doggone difference.
A cute girl is one that has a pretty face, nice/average shape, and is easily recognized as being good looking. The things that stand out about this girl are: personality, her ability to care for others, her drive and determination and her intelligence. When it comes to sex she is good at it but rarely tries completely to the left things. She is a compatible lover and knows what her guy likes and aims to please in a sweet, soft porn type of way. This girl usually is the type that can be loved by the mamas and the homeboys. In essence a package deal when it’s time to settle down and have small niglets.
The sexy girl is one that does not have to look that good. Apparently looks have little to do with a sexy girl. A sexy girl has swag and she oozes sex. When she walks, her hips sway and hypnotize every guy even remotely near her. She always wears clothes that accentuate her shape, and she spends lots of time on her appearance. Meaning make up is always above par, hair never out of place, nails and eyebrows always done. The things that stand out about this girl are: her body, her lips and her eyes. When it comes to sex she is nothing short of a lioness in the sheets. She could care less about her partner, she is comfortable doing whatever it is that gives her pleasure. Unlike the soft porn cute girl, she is like one of those hard core OMG! they are having sex on the concrete porns. You’re not quite sure if you could take her around your homeboys because she is just so damn sexy and I am not sure how your mama would react to your girl sucking your fingers at dinner. In essence she is secretly what every girl wants to be and what every guy just plain wants. She is independent and confident.
**these are only 2 types of females, there are several more that will be discussed in later entries**
My advice to the cute girls is to take some shit from the sexy girl side and add a little XXX to yourself, I know thats what I’m trying to do.
Do you agree with the sexy v. cute philosophy world?? Let’s Hear what you gotta say n stuff!
Peaches&Gumbo
So this is 21, eh
As you know, World I turned 21 on Monday. I don’t know about you but I feel like I have been waiting my whole life for this moment. I mean it seems so appealing from the outside looking in. Almost like I was finally invited to this exclusive party. But I mean it ain’t all that, dang it sucks saying that.
I live in Atlanta, so you can’t really do anything fun unless you are 21. So I was too thrilled when I got in my first club this past Monday. Let me set it up for you. Now imagine this… no cover charge, free martinis until 12, a packed crowd, the best music, cool air and I must say it was some fine guys in there. Seems like this would include all the needed ingredients to bake up the most delicious party ever, Right… Wrong!
So apparently when you are over 21 you cant dance, or enjoy the music being played. You have to just kinda stand around, drink, look cool and talk about everyone that passes you. As my friend said, “Everyone has to just stand around and think about being over 21 the whole time.” This is so lame.
I don’t understand why you would be surrounded by so much fun and not partake in it. Why get dressed, put on make up, cologne/perfume, waste gas and precious time going to a club and not dance. This is so stupid.
How can you stay still as a woman when “Get me Bodied” or “I love Your Girl” comes on. As a man why wouldn’t you grab a girl when “Take Me Down” comes on. You people are dumb, and I hate you. Stop coming out, you can stay at home and look at people on damn TV.
I hope it gets better for me because right now I am thinking about giving up on the wack ass 21 and up club scene.
Can someone help me understand??? World please answer me this, Why do people go to the club and stand around??
Peaches&Gumbo
Starting Anew… Tips for a Dating Come Back
So you finally are over your wretched ex, you took that much needed “Me Time,” that Heather Headley sang about and now you are ready to jump back into the dating scene. But the thing is you forgot what to do and how to do it. As a professional dater, I have decided to help you out and feature some tips to being a successful and progressive dater.
Tip 1. Go into each date with an open mind. OK so I am not saying that you should be oblivious to clear losers but you should start each date fresh. Meaning don’t pre judge the person or compare them to your ex. This is how you completely spoil a potentially good dating experience.
Tip 2. Be fun. There is nothing wrong with laughing aloud, telling “good” jokes that have been previously approved as funny. Guys like funny girls and guess what guys, girls love funny guys. A little personality leaves a lasting impression.
Tip 3. Ladies: Be approachable and don’t be scurred to be the approacher. I hate going out and seeing ladies with that my upper lip stank so I gotta look like this look on. It’s not cute, so stop it and a guy is not going to approach you looking all mean n stuff. Also there is nothing wrong with you initiating conversation with a guy you may find attractive. Don’t be all thirsty but don’t be afraid to offer a simple, “hey” the world won’t end, I promise and you are still fly as hell.
Tip 4. Guys: Don’t Brag. OK so you have a huge loft downtown… great, you drive a Benz on weekdays and a Porsche on the weekends…Whoo!!!, you can get me in any club/lounge/concert/movie premiere free… Oh Shit, for real!!. While all these things are impressive, it is out of pocket to mention them in order to get a date and it’s annoying because most guys that do this, have none of these things anyway. Be yourself and let her find out about that stuff later, because the good ones don’t really care about all that anyway.
Tip 5. Dress the part. I haven’t went into detail on here yet about how I think its inexcusable when people have no desire or just the complete inability to look nice in clothes but I hate those people. When you look and smell nice, people notice and it makes you feel good about yourself.
Tip 6. Exude Confidence. There is no reason why you shouldn’t think highly of yourself, period even if you aren’t the cutest there is some inner flyness in everybody, whether its through personality or intellect. Besides you know yourself better than anyone and if you aren’t completely confident with being you then no one is going to be confident with being with you.
**Now get out there and have some fun… Happy Dating**
Peaches&Gumbo
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