I will admit I was a little salty a couple weeks ago when a guy I used to talk to told me I was vain. Actually it took me completely by surprise. Only because no one had ever directed vain slander towards me before. He went on to explain that I was different and it seemed that I could care less what he thought about me anymore. Meaning that if he complimented me about something physical or mental I had an almost back handed appreciation when I thanked him.

Well world the truth is I don’t really care what guys think of me. I don’t need a guy to validate how I feel about myself, sorry. If you can’t be with someone like that then… HOLLA!!

It took me awhile to get to this point. I am going to be completely transparent with you world. I had seriously low self esteem up until recently. I went through a lot and I did not like myself. I have always needed some guy to validate me. I needed a guy to tell me I looked good, to feel like i looked good. I needed someone, anyone to continuously remind me of the greatness I possessed. It took years for me to finally look in a mirror and truly love the image looking back at me. I am only 21 so I am blessed that I went through all that before I reached true womanhood.

So yeah I am not walking around thinking to my self, ”Aww man I hope this guy thinks my outfit looks nice.” NO FOOL, I know I am attractive, I know I keep myself up and I know that I am a genuinely good person. But knowing these things to be true does not make me vain, it makes me CONFIDENT. And if you can’t tell the difference you have a problem with your own esteem.

World, please walk around with your head high n stuff. Know your self worth and be confident to be you because no one else will. Don’t seek validation from others, Love your own Damn Self!!!!

**Readers if you are still confused about vanity and self confidence see definitions below**

Vanity- excessive pride in one’s appearance, qualities, abilities, achievements, etc.; character or quality of being vain; conceit:

Confidence- belief in oneself and one’s powers or abilities; self-confidence; self-reliance; assurance:

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