The Pass
Why does it seem that guys have this secret pass to get away with anything? I mean, they can sleep with whomever they want… except like a cousin or sister, they can exploit women, date or not date, completely cheat on their girlfriends and it is considered alright. Society is so screwed up how did they get this pass and where in the hell can I get one. I mean it would be extremely useful to have one if by chance I am married and meet Idris Elba. That way people won’t think I am a disrespectful whore because I will lay him down. Owww!!
So guess what ladies, I am giving you this pass. There are of course some limitations to this pass and you must abide by them in order to remain respectable.
The Pass is a one time only ticket that you may use in order to do something that would be completely alright for a man but completely not ok for a woman. Examples include but are not limited to: one night stands, farts/burps, cheating, not answering texts or calls from your special someone, whistling/catcalling at fine guys.
So ladies go ahead do something crazy and against the societal norm, who cares you have a Pass and it is completely fine for you to act a complete ass and do what you always have wanted to without worrying about the weak ass Double Standard.
Peaches&Gumbo
Immmmmmmmmm Baaaaaaaaaack!!!!!!!
Sorry viewers, I have been gone for months now. It has been a completely un busy time in my life but I have been kinda nervous to post the actual things I have been wanting to. Crazy right!! I know. I have so many drafts that just are waiting to be published but I have been on some other stuff and have gone against my sole purpose of starting this blog in the first place. I will write what I want and feel and not care. But I havent done that and I apologize. So if you by chance have come across my blog today let everyone know that I am back and there will be many more posts to come.
Peaches&Gumbo
Ten Things People May Not Know About Me
1. The most important thing to me is family.
2. I don’t like people, I just tolerate them because I have to.
3. I kinda live for celebrity gossip, sad i know.
4. I cry like once every other week.
5.I prefer dark skin dudes over light skin ones… sorry
6. I am deathly afraid of birds.
7. I am a drunk texter
8. Either my brain is small or I have no attention span. But I can not focus on one thing for more than 12 minutes, this number lessens if there is noise interference.
9. My eyelashes don’t curl.
10. I love to read, I read at least one or two books a month that aren’t assigned.
Peaches&Gumbo
Oops My Bad
Uh yeah about that last post, I had a moment and was slightly intoxicated. But I really was feeling some type of way but that was not a mature way to handle those emotions. I could easily just erase that post, but who knows maybe it needs to be read.
Peaches&Gumbo
What are you on???
I have never had the privilege of feeling so disrespected before in my entire life. Trust me I have been through things and have had trials and tribulations but never have I ever felt this disrespected in my entire life. Well world, once again my generosity has been taken for granted by people I believed to be friends. It’s utterly sad that as a senior in college I am still realizing who is true blue and who isn’t. I thought I was done with the whole revision of friend circles but apparently I still had one more revision to make. I am so over people completely compromising their friendship with me. I feel like if I have to ever doubt our friendship because of some back handed shady shit that you have done, this can’t be real friendship. And honestly it’s not worth my time or energy. I can do without you, it’s just not that important.
My question to all of the shady ass disrespectful people out there is, what the fuck are you on? were you born in an alternate universe where it was cool to do the things you do? Should I not be hurt that you have clearly disrespected me openly in my own house. Like what are you on, what are you about?? I have never felt so upset by a situation in my life. And over a situation that was closed months ago but you have the freaking audacity to completely overlook the obvious and force me to be uncomfortable and for what. Some space to smoke, and free drinks. Like what are you on? I have never met anyone as despicably disrespectful and I wish that I honestly never met you. But with all things I have no regrets I am glad you were in my life so that I will definitely know for future situations. Please believe this shit won’t happen again. It was just a slip in judgment, and that is my fault. Because I knew that nothing good could come of secretively hiding shit from everyone. If it can’t be broadcasted it is never right.
Your character and integrity have been completely compromised and I have absolutely no respect for your ridiculousness. I am usually a good judge of character world, but this time I completely fucked up.
Trust you will reap this, you really will.
Peaches&Gumbo
Putting it All out There
Whats up?
I know we haven’t spoken for a while
But I was thinkin bout you
And it kinda made me smile
So many things to say
And I’ll put em on a blog post
Thought it might be easier
The words might come out better
How’s your mother, how’s your little sister?
Does she still look just like you?
So many things I wanna know the answers to
Wish I could press rewind
And rewrite every line
To the story of me and you
Don’t you know I’ve tried and I’ve tried
To get you out my mind
But it don’t get no better
As each day goes by
And I’m lost and confused
I’ve got nothin to lose
Hope to hear from you soon
P.S. I’m still not over you
Still not over you
Excuse me, I really didn’t mean to ramble on
But there’s a lot of feelings that remain since you’ve been gone
I guess you thought that I would put it all behind me
But it seems there’s always somethin right there to remind me
Like a silly joke, or somethin on the t.v.
Boy it aint easy
When I hear a ginuwine song
I get that same old feeling
Wish I could press rewind
Turn back the hands of time
And I shouldn’t be telling you
Did you know I kept all of your pictures
Don’t have the strength to part with them yet
Oh no….
Tried to erase the way your kisses taste
But some things a girl can never forget
P.S. I’m still not over you,
Peaches&Gumbo
*Compliments of Rihanna*
All Appreciative N Shit!!
AWWWWWWWWWWw!!! Thanks you guys, there have been over 1000 hits to my litle ole blog. I truly appreciate you guys coming and reading, thats all I ask. Again thanks, and come on feel free to comment nothing bad will happen. LOL love you guys!!
Vent
Disclaimer: Sometimes I just have to write how I feel. Sometimes I have no particular directions in which the writing is going but it eases the tension and allows me to exhale.
There are three types of people that I hate in the world. Thieves, Flexers and Judgemental people. I never for the life of me could understand why people stole from others. I mean to me its the most disgusting thing ever and you should be ashamed if you are a thief because you’re just pretty stupid.
For the life of me I just dont get how people can act one way behind closed doors and then completely morph into some other creature upon other people entering onto the scene. These are flexers, they will treat you with complete indifference when others are around but be your bestest bud when you two are in a closed space. These people can run into the highway during rush hour.
But of all the people I hate, the person who is so quick to judge others’ actions would have to be at the top of the list. You have all come in to contact with this person, they ride around on this pedestal that they have falsely placed themselves upon. And any and everything that you do, a comment slaps you in the face full speed from them. And the first thing you do is furrow your brows and wonder, hmm didn’t really ask for that comment. This person always is in search of allies because in this war they need equally judgmental people to attack your insecurities so that maybe a litte joy can come into their lives. I just dont get it, how can someone find or choose to completely exploit your rough spots. It’s crazy, i never could understand it and I probably never will, but i guess anything to get attention.
Peaches&Gumbo
Mr. President
As I stood at Park, a lounge/restaurant in Washington DC, last night nothing could have prepared me for the history that was to be made in mere hours. Of course, I had gotten casually fly and headed out to have a good ole political time, I honestly was not prepared for the emotion that would consume me at 11:02 pm.
Its funny because I think that African Americans are so accustomed to defeat that we just kind of expect it at times. It may sound ignorant but although I had traveled to rural South Carolina, canvassing in the rain, sent an absentee ballot to the racist and conservative state of Georgia, heard the hope in the voice of my grandparents and parents, I still had that twinge of doubt. Not a big twinge but a twinge nonetheless. So at 11:02 p.m. when CNN announced that Barack Obama would be the president elect, I could not do anything but cry. I didn’t care that i had on black eyeliner or that I was in the center of a club, all I could think about was the simple fact that we finally did it. We finally can say that we can perform any feat.
At the young age of 21 I have dealt with and have been faced with some of the most racist situations you could think of, but now I have hope. I have hope in America and just like the lovely Michelle Obama put it, for the first time in my life I am truly proud to be an American. So remain hopeful, prayerful and remember he can’t do this alone. Keep up the political hype and make this the most memorably positive 4 years possible. Stay involved don’t leave him hanging because he needs us America, and we especially the black community can not let him down.
Peaches&Gumbo
The Beauty & Geek Phenomenon
Have you ever been walking in the mall and said to yourself, “Why is he with her, or Why is she with him?” These responses usually come up in our heads when you see the following things: A sexy ass dude with a completely bainty ass looking female or a fly ass female with a goofy looking lame ass guy. Personally this really bothered me, until I realized the reason behind these scenarios. I am going to give you two real life situations that will open your eyes as to why this occurs.
*names have been changed*
Situation A. My friend Christina is what all guys would love, more specifically what all black guys would love. She is gorgeous, no homo. Long beautiful hair, small waist, proportionate butt, hazel eyes, fly dresser. She’s funny and has an overall great personality, not to mention she was accepted to UPenn for Business school. But guess what world, her boyfriend is the wackest guy I have ever met. At first I was like maybe he has money or I don’t know something that she wants because she cant just be with this wack guy for fun. But no, I was wrong. She really loves this guy and even talks about him being the one for her. Strange I know.
Everytime we double date or whenever I am just out with her and her guy, every guy is noticeably pissed that she is booed up with this guy.
So why is this, you ask?? Let us draw from another example. Mariah Carey and Nick Cannon. When interviewed on the radio recently Jermaine Dupri explained that Mariah would be in the studio with some of the most successful and fly dudes ever but they never approached, poor Mariah. One day, Nick Cannon did what no one else was willing to do. He simply approached her and she quickly fell for him, no matter how completely obvious it is that he is just about the wackest guy around.
So guys grab your jangly balls and don’t be intimidated. I mean it’s worth a try…
Peaches&Gumbo
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