So you finally are over your wretched ex, you took that much needed “Me Time,” that Heather Headley sang about and now you are ready to jump back into the dating scene. But the thing is you forgot what to do and how to do it. As a professional dater, I have decided to help you out and feature some tips to being a successful and progressive dater.

Tip 1. Go into each date with an open mind. OK so I am not saying that you should be oblivious to clear losers but you should start each date fresh. Meaning don’t pre judge the person or compare them to your ex. This is how you completely spoil a potentially good dating experience.

Tip 2. Be fun. There is nothing wrong with laughing aloud, telling “good” jokes that have been previously approved as funny. Guys like funny girls and guess what guys, girls love funny guys. A little personality leaves a lasting impression.

Tip 3. Ladies: Be approachable and don’t be scurred to be the approacher. I hate going out and seeing ladies with that my upper lip stank so I gotta look like this look on. It’s not cute, so stop it and a guy is not going to approach you looking all mean n stuff. Also there is nothing wrong with you initiating conversation with a guy you may find attractive. Don’t be all thirsty but don’t be afraid to offer a simple, “hey” the world won’t end, I promise and you are still fly as hell.

Tip 4. Guys: Don’t Brag. OK so you have a huge loft downtown… great, you drive a Benz on weekdays and a Porsche on the weekends…Whoo!!!, you can get me in any club/lounge/concert/movie premiere free… Oh Shit, for real!!. While all these things are impressive, it is out of pocket to mention them in order to get a date and it’s annoying because most guys that do this, have none of these things anyway. Be yourself and let her find out about that stuff later, because the good ones don’t really care about all that anyway.

Tip 5. Dress the part. I haven’t went into detail on here yet about how I think its inexcusable when people have no desire or just the complete inability to look nice in clothes but I hate those people. When you look and smell nice, people notice and it makes you feel good about yourself.

Tip 6. Exude Confidence. There is no reason why you shouldn’t think highly of yourself, period even if you aren’t the cutest there is some inner flyness in everybody, whether its through personality or intellect. Besides you know yourself better than anyone and if you aren’t completely confident with being you then no one is going to be confident with being with you.

**Now get out there and have some fun… Happy Dating**

Peaches&Gumbo